Too Shy to Make Friends After 60?
Follow These 6 Simple Strategies
Making friends was easy when you were 6 years old. You’d just ask, “Can we be friends?” and a strong friendship bond was formed.
But the question is, how to make friends as you age and are shy as well? Here are some simple tips to help you make friends in the 2nd and 3rd acts of your life.
Understanding Your Shyness
You’d be surprised to know that half of all adults also feel shy. But the thing is, you need to understand and overcome your shyness. How?
The Internet is full of useful resources to help you break your shyness. Click through them, understand your level of shyness, and set about to overcome it.
When you understand how your brain reacts to certain situations, it can help you figure out which environment is right for you to make friends.
Kick the Embarrassment
Don’t confuse shyness with being an introvert. Where introverts love solitude, shy people are often desperately lonely.
So, don’t try to kid yourself into believing that you’re happy alone. And don’t let embarrassment stop you from breaking your shyness. Admit that you’re lonely and then take steps to begin to mix with people.
Here’s a simple tip. Ask yourself, what’s the worst that could happen if you talk to new people? And then you’ll know—there’s actually nothing like worst.
Share Your Interests
It may seem like bad advice if you’re shy. You may think: “I don’t like sharing my interests.” But if you try joining the groups that focus on your particular interests, you’ll it’s not so difficult to connect with others.
Do you like reading? Join a book club at the library. Do you like abs workout? Join a local gym. This way, you not only pursue your hobbies but also make new friends.
Befriend Social Media
If the idea of joining local groups doesn’t appeal to you, social media is here. It’s an excellent tool for shy people to get in touch with others.
Join Facebook groups of your interest, make friends on Instagram, or share your interests on twitter. And don’t forget Meetups. Run a Google search on “Meetups.” Quite simply, it’s a community of people who come together because they care about the same thing.
As you can see, the options are endless.
Be the First to Acquaintance
Have you ever walked a dog around the neighbourhood, or in your local park? Then you know how easy it is to kick-start a conversation with dog owners, or just with passers-by.
But don’t always look for others to speak up first. Learn to be the starter. Talk about your common interests. Remember that developing true friendships takes time, at least a few months. So, be patient.
Do Good, Have Friends
Ever tried volunteering? If not, do it now! Donate your time to a good cause. You may join local hospitals, churches, schools, and volunteer organizations to help others. Doing so will not only help you meet like-minded people, but also increases your self-esteem.
The list certainly doesn’t end here. Try other creative ways to break out of your shyness and connect with people in your 2nd and 3rd acts of life.
Be confident and keep going! You’ll be glad you did.