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Not Growing in Age, But Growing in Grace

Not Growing in Age, But Growing in Grace

This morning when I GOT UP WITH A GREAT ATTITUDE, I walked to the bathroom humming a tune and with every step My bones where also jookin and jiving like a rock & roll band!

We’re getting to that age where we hear “snap, crackle and pop” more times by moving around than we did as kids eating the cereal. We may not like, where we are physically, mentally or emotionally, but why should that stop us?

We shouldn’t even have to act our age, here are some great ways to improve your health and happiness and grow old gracefully:

ACT As “If”…  WHAT? Here, is The MAGIC “If”

The Magic “If” is a highly effective tool for actors. When an actor starts to ask themselves “what if” questions, they can discover whole new elements that can be used anytime they approach the creation or rediscovery of a role. And you can use this technique as well, its a supposition. Suppose you were acting 10 to 15 years younger than your age…

Yep, it can be as simple as that – start acting younger than you are. Like I mentioned in my book Stop Acting Your Age – you can develop “a character, personality, or persona that’s 10 to 15 years younger than your actual age (or the age on your driver’s license.” Just start acting, dressing and doing things you enjoyed 10 – 15 years ago and slowly this persona becomes a habit and you’ll live and feel so much better!

Make New Goals

So, you’re an empty nester. You have raised your family and retired from your job – that doesn’t mean you have to hang up your hat or apron.

Make new life goals and work towards them. Want to learn a new language, write a book, or try something you’ve never done before? Go for it! There are low-cost classes at your local college, library, or Department of Recreation. There are also many courses offered for free online as well.

As proven in a study by GeroPsych, a leading international journal, proves that setting new goals and life-long learning keeps you motivated, stimulates your mind, and improves your overall well-being.

Share Yourself

Just as learning something new has profound psychological effects on your health, so does teaching and sharing with others.
As I mentioned in my previous blog “They’re not Old, They’re Gold” – 59% of seniors are involved in volunteering. Sharing yourself with the younger generations is a great way to feel revitalized and younger. Go to the places I mentioned above for learning and offer your help and experience there.

So, grow with grace and style and show the youngsters how it’s done.

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Always remember to feel young, think young, ACT young.

And don’t be afraid to drink from the fountain of youth – Your mind.

This audio is a part of the SAYA series for baby boomers. Thom McFadden is your personal coach for beating AGEISM. Seniors can now Look, ACT, Feel years younger. Stop Acting Your Age, even if you are retired. Life is just beginning!

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A Little Help From my Friends

A Little Help From my Friends

We all might be familiar with this Beatles song and the lyrics “Oh, I get by with a little help from my friends, Mmm, get high with a little help from my friends, Oh, I’m going to try with a little help from my friends”. As we age and look back on our lives, one of our biggest regrets may be that we didn’t keep in touch with friends. It may be a kid from the neighborhood, a high school sweetheart, or a long-time friend that you just lost touch with.

This is a huge regret among oldtimers, but not to worry, there’s plenty of ways to find them and rekindle the relationship. Here’s a few ways to find your pals:

Social Media

With the explosion of social media sites, it’s gotten so much easier to find old classmates, college buddies, and pretty much anyone you knew.

Now this is going to be fun! As a Boomer Plus, you get to become a detective! I love google, and should too!

Just enter their name in the search bar on Twitter or Facebook and see which profile matches up with your friend and send out a “friend request”. Facebook also has Pages for school and college alumni students that you can join and ask “Does anyone know Joe, Class of ’65?”

You’d be amazed how much the world has shrunk through social media, and Just how much they know about you!

Online Search

Do a straight up search on a search engine like Google. Just enter their full name in the search bar with quotations – “Joe Blow”. If you know any other detail such as where they live add that as well – “Joe Blow” Hollywood. These searches often give you their addresses, social media profiles, work profile or any website they have created and so on.

Public Records

Various public record sites are available such as usa.gov (which may be complicated due to its size), but search for “records” in the main search box and it narrows it down to military records and some State public record sites.

You can also search Genealogy sites such as FamilyTreeNow.com and Ancestry.com, that will list current and past addresses for free, (or a free trial).

A warning to y’all though, don’t be scammed by those websites that charge a fee to find people – they are using the exact same sources I’ve mentioned here. Save your money and do it yourself.

If you’re one of those “technically challenged” and just don’t like those new-fangled gadgets – no problem. The public library has a large resource of information and people to help you research, from their own genealogy club, their own public record listings, to having plain old local knowledge.

So, stop the regret and just reach out to those old friends and say “Hey!” You might be surprised that they were wondering about you too!

If you would like to have more of Thom’s tips on how to Stop Acting Your Age Please, subscribe, and let me know in the comments anything you would like me to share anything in an upcoming episode.

Always remember to feel young, think young, ACT young.

And don’t be afraid to drink from the fountain of youth – Your mind.

This BLOG is a part of the SAYA series for baby boomers. Thom McFadden is your personal coach for beating AGEISM. Seniors can now Look, ACT, Feel years younger. Stop Acting Your Age, even if you are retired. Life is just beginning!

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Turning “OLD” into “GOLD”

Have you ever said to yourself, while looking in the mirror brushing your teeth. Am I OLD and worthless, is that me?

Lets imagine that you can turn OLD, into GOLD! Because There is gold between them ears partner! You’re not worthless, your value is in your perception!

Life is a state of consciousness. But most people walk around in a state of trance. They’re just breathing. However, “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.” You are what you think. So don’t stop breathing but start consciously thinking.

Everything you have and do is strictly in accordance with your consciousness. As Barbara Streisand wisely says, “The outside world mirrors what we think of ourselves.”

You should acknowledge what is right with you every day, and the good will grow. Sometimes it is difficult to acknowledge the good, when your mind still sees incompleteness and imperfection in many areas of your life.

I’m reminded of the often-quoted statement, “What the mind can conceive and believe, the mind can achieve.” It sounds like a simple process. And it is, but it is not easy.

80% of people don’t listen, don’t care, and don’t get it. Whenever I teach, I know that only 20% of my students will really commit to changing their lives.

A secret has been staring us in the face for years: If we allow others to make our decisions for us, we become voluntary slaves. The wool has been pulled over our eyes by the media.

Pick up a paper, turn on the news, you see what they want us to see: Work or Strike, Unions or Bosses, Jobs, Interest Rates, Accidents, Floods, Earthquakes, Tornadoes, Tidal Waves, Starvation, Death, and the mother of all: Weapons of Mass Destruction.

Here’s the bright side: there is a savvy crowd, whom are called Super Hero Boomer networkers. These individuals look after themselves, and respect their associates for doing the same. You can join us. But you must decide that you can take care of yourself with the right knowledge and support.

Multimillionaire athletes are paid for what they do. But they could not do it without a team to back them up. The SUPER star could not function if there was no team, or no one to play with. You can be a “superstar” with a team that respects you if you can take care of yourself. Maybe you’ve heard of grabbing the brass ring.

The brass ring is within you. In fact, pardner, the brass ring is made of gold. You can grab it and never let go. By constantly working on yourself to be a better, giving, sharing, loving man or woman, you have all the resources already to be that “superstar”. in your life You are made of the right stuff. You only need to access it.

Most of us associate prosperity with money. But when we look deeper, it’s secondary to having an elevated quality of life. Heaven high! So, let’s start now. Start! That’s the key. If you don’t start, you will never achieve success.

Once you DO start, the whole universe works with you. This is the immutable principle of cause and effect.

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Always remember to feel young, think young, ACT young.

And don’t be afraid to drink from the fountain of youth – Your mind.

Your Golden Opportunity lies within

YOUR LIFE WILL BE WHAT YOU MAKE OF IT

The golden opportunity you are seeking lies within you.

It’s not in your environment. It’s not in luck or chance, or in the help of others.

It’s all in you. There are opportunities all around you. Even at our age!

If the door of opportunity appears closed, you must knock on it and keep knocking on it until it opens.

You must become an opener of doors. You can develop your opportunities by applying persistence and tenacity to your possibilities.

Success doesn’t come to you. You must go to success.

You know, dieing is not difficult. You just have to breath, eat, drink water, sleep and wait.

What’s hard is living, that you have to practice. Practice discipline and mastery.

Aim to be the best and never doubt that you can get there. it helps to have to have a program.

So here’s a program for you: These are the ABCs to Stop Acting You Age. and start living.

First, let’s start with the A’s.

You start off in the morning with the first A, which is Attitude. Tell yourself every morning before your feet hit the ground: I’m going to have a great attitude.

Whatever you say to yourself, that goes into your subconscious, and that allows you to start your day off right. If you don’t have a great attitude, if you tell yourself negative thoughts first thing, then right off the bat you’re going to start off on the wrong foot, that means you are going to spend a lot of time tripping over yourself, and thats no fun.

 

The next A is for Action. Action is the lifeblood of acting. Action is the lifeblood of Success. Action is the lifeblood of life. There’s really no passivity. It all takes action.

So you want to take action in a positive way that’s going to allow you to proceed and move forward in your life. As an Actor, you’re always waiting for the director to yell “Action”. And now what does that mean?

That’s when it starts. Action is what it takes for you to start. So start taking action, Stop Acting

Your Age,Now!.
Stay tuned for the b’s in Stop Acting Your Age.

If you would like to have more of Thom’s tips on how to Stop Acting Your Age Please, subscribe, and let me know in the comments anything you would like me to share anything in an upcoming episode.

Always remember to feel young, think young, ACT young.

And don’t be afraid to drink from the fountain of youth – Your mind.

Dangerfields Says Respect Thy Elders

 

Rodney Dangerfield the late comedian Was a very funny man and he played “I get no respect” to the hilt.

he got a lot of respect from comedians because he was Brilliant portraying that character but now I see a lot of Boomers portraying the same character but not funny, because they are playing the victim.

Poor me I get no respect Just because someone has managed to live past 60+ does not mean they automatically have respect from everyone else.

We’ve all been subjected to the age-old belief to ‘respect thy elders.”

My question is this: What exactly is it about being old that makes you think you deserve respect?

What I find ridiculous about this belief is it generalizes a single characterization over an entire subset of the populace.

Generalizing one description over such a wide group of people is typically a no-no for intelligent people who have the brainpower to know better than to think

just because a person falls under a certain umbrella means they must also fit a narrow mold of other beliefs and categorizations.

Similarly, it would be ridiculous to assume that being a young adult automatically makes someone a drug-using party animal. It is absurd to assume being old means someone is sage and responsible.

Of course, being of an advanced age can gift someone with the necessary characteristics to be capable of garnering respect.

And, it is equally possible for someone to live past the age of 60 and still be a complete A-hole.

Essentially, people should not automatically be rewarded because they are old, because being advanced in years does not inherently imbue in someone the characteristics that make someone worthy of respect.

People should always be courteous and polite to others, including the elderly, but respect is something people should have to earn by proving they possess an admirable ability or quality, such as being responsible and hardworking.

Granting someone the honor of your respect is something one should not hand out willy-nilly. Respect should be earned.

While everyone should always treat others with civility, respect should be something that is more closely guarded. Make sure someone proves they are truly worthy of respect before granting it to them. Do not assume someone deserves respect because of old age.

Now, let’s change from “I get no respect” to, I will be, truly worthy of your respect. It works for me and it will for you too. B Bop

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Always remember to feel young, think young, ACT young.

And don’t be afraid to drink from the fountain of youth – Your mind.

3 Ways To Turn Your Biggest Regrets Into Your Biggest Wins

3 Ways To Turn Your Biggest Regrets Into Your Biggest Wins

3 Ways To Turn Your Biggest Regrets Into Your Biggest Wins

 

As Ferris Bueller wisely said, “Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around for a while, you could miss it.”

Great advice for a seventeen your old. Potentially lethal advice for anyone over the age of fifty.

For lots of baby boomers, stopping to look around at life can make you realize that you’ve missed out – on a lot. Which then, of course, can make you feel pretty horrible. Pondering your regrets is a quick way to a whole host of trouble.

But there is a way around it.

If you’re smart, you can learn how to take some of those big life regrets and turn them into your biggest wins. And you can do it right now.

Start Making More Time. One of the biggest regrets baby boomers have is that they didn’t spend more time with the people they care about most – family and friends. By carving out time to have family over to your home, entertaining friends, or making a trip to see a relative, you can ensure that this regret doesn’t stay with you for long.

It’s Never Too Late. If you’re able to read this, it’s not too late – for anything. Want to travel the world? Do it. That marathon you thought about in your twenties? Endurance increases with age. That car, house, toy you’ve been thinking about for decades? Now’s the time. And before you let your mind fill with excuses, stop right there and start asking yourself “how”. “How” is one of the most powerful questions – it will lead you to answers that will not only get you excited about life again, but that will ensure those regrets are long gone in your rearview mirror.

Don’t Stop Doing What You Love. While retirement might be in your future, don’t give in to the “that’s it” mindset. There’s always something to do – and your experience, expertise, and talent is needed now more than ever. Many baby boomers have regrets about not following their dreams, but there’s no reason why you can’t still follow them. If you enjoy your work, the longer you do it – the longer you’ll live.

There’s no way to change the past. But, by looking at your regrets, you can learn what to do differently right now. If a certain regret keeps popping up in your head, face it head on and do something about today. Regrets live in the past, but you don’t. Keep going.

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Always remember to feel young, think young, ACT young.

And don’t be afraid to drink from the fountain of youth – Your mind.

The Problem With Old Farts And How To Fix It

 The Problem With Old Farts And How To Fix It


The Problem With Old Farts And How To Fix It

Have you ever looked around and thought to yourself, I clearly must be in the wrong place, I’m decades younger than all of these people!

First off, if you have had the same experience only you replaced the word “younger” with “older”, keep reading. This is for you too.

Whichever end of the spectrum you are on, there’s an instant desire to get out of wherever it is you are. This is engrained in us even as young kids, separated at school by our birthdates.

Then, it is perpetuated as we get older, with instant judgment being passed if you are dating someone “too old” or “too young”. And still there’s more, thanks to the way advertising teaches us to “look for signs” of aging – and, if you see any, quick – fix it!

For whatever reason, society wants us to play by age rules. Because of that, we are constantly reminded and, subconsciously or consciously, thinking of it.

As you get older, however, you realize the superficiality of age. The old adage, “age is just a number”, really is a lesson we all need to take seriously.

The truth is that old fart you see over there is probably one of the most interesting, valuable people you’ll ever meet. Rather than writing off people as “too old”, we need to be writing them in as “too valuable” to pass up.

By taking time to set aside age and to really get to know someone, you discover that there’s a whole world of fascinating people just waiting to be met.

Of course, there will be a few old farts that really are just that, but taking the chance of finding the gold behind the old is one you should challenge yourself to take.

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Always remember to feel young, think young, ACT young.

And don’t be afraid to drink from the fountain of youth – Your mind.

Age Discrimination No More By Thom Mcfadden

 

How old are you? I am 4 and a half. are you old? this little Tow head Sherlock Holmes asked. Why do you ask. do I look old? Yes kinda, but you don’t act sick she replied. do old people act sick around you, I asked. yea kinda, my PaPa is all ways sick, can’t play anymore, just watches TV, My mother is afraid that he will make me sick. ByBy I have to go Now, just as her babysitter or nanny called her to go. as I said good by, I could see that the nanny was concerned as she grabbed her hand and walked away quickly.

Whatta you SAYA SAYERS!

Thom here. Thom McFadden. Actor, Author, Grandfather and Known as Hollywood’s “Coach to the Stars”.

When it comes to age discrimination and stereotypes, young kids always assume that “old people” just sit around watching soap operas all day. Or complain about their aches and pains and try their best to acquire each and every tennis, baseball, basketball, or toy that happens to fall onto their lawn.

Those ideas are just plain ludicrous. Right? Join Me, and let’s Change Their Perception
One thing that you can help them learn, is that their view of elders and older adults might be wrong. Children and young people look at “old people” from a certain perspective: they view them like their grandparents.

If they had grandparents that would sit around and watch reruns of soap operas and old daytime TV shows all day, that is their basis of what “old farts are like”. We’re not all like that. Right? We can change that.

Show them that the older generation isn’t stagnant. We are active, happy, and involved. We can lead healthy lives that are full of passion and purpose. We are friendly, open-minded, and – yet- also have strong belief systems. We can teach them things that we’ve learned and they can teach us about what we can learn from them.

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Don’t Lose Your Mind By Thom Mcfadden Baby Boomer Expert

Have you ever thought that you were losing your Inquiring mind? Boy, I sure have.

Whata you SAY-A Sayers. Thom here Thom McFadden, Coach to the Stars. Thanks for letting me keep you informed.

The Inquiring Mind
If You can sustain your interest in what you’re doing, you’re an extremely fortunate person. What you see very frequently in boomers professional lives, and perhaps in their emotional life as well, is that they lose interest in the third act. You sort of get tired and indifferent, and, sometimes, defensive.

You lose your capacity for astonishment — and that’s a great loss because the world is a very astonishing place. What I feel fortunate about is that I’m still astonished, that things still amaze me. I think that that’s the great benefit of being in the arts, where the possibility for learning never disappears.

Curiosity is heavily associated with all aspects of human development, in which derives the process of learning and desire to acquire knowledge and skill.

WORK YOUR CURIOSITY MUSCLE. you are old when you stop using it.

Here is a cool bonus.

7 Ways to Shake Up Your Life

1. Start saying “yes” instead of “no”.
2. Don’t allow your feelings to dictate your behavior.
3. Take a trip to somewhere you haven’t been before, even if it down the block.
4. Spend time with people who are different from you.
5. learn something new food, or learn or a new skill.
6. Live in the present, not the future, or the past.
7. Do something different – that scares you – every day.

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SAY-A INTRODUCTION BY Thom Mcfadden Baby Boomer Years

SAY-A INTRODUCTION BY Thom Mcfadden Baby Boomer Years

Whatta you SAY-A SAYERS!

Have you ever struggled with not being seen for who you are anymore?  Have you ever felt like no one was listening to what you were saying? Have you ever felt like the world was just waiting for you to die?  Boy, I sure have. As an Actor, I was considered too old to play certain roles.  Then as an acting coach, I felt as though the younger actors weren’t really listening to me anymore. Holy moly was that frustrating and depressing! Well, that was happening to me. People thought I wasn’t cool anymore. I wasn’t asked

Boy, I sure have. As an Actor, I was considered too old to play certain roles.  Then as an acting coach, I felt as though the younger actors weren’t really listening to me anymore. Holy moly was that frustrating and depressing! Well, that was happening to me. People thought I wasn’t cool anymore. I wasn’t asked to the parties. The older I got the more invisible I became. People weren’t seeing me or hearing what I had to say. I could have walked into a bank and robbed it, and no one would have seen me. That’s when I decided to turn it all around and created STOP ACTING YOUR AGE. This shows you how I did it (and how you can too). As an Actor, you are castable ten to fifteen years younger than your age. Hi, I’m Thom. Thom McFadden. Actor, Author, Grandfather and Known as Hollywood’s “Coach to the Stars”.       STOP ACTING YOUR AGE or SAY-A, is HERE to help you reach your full YOUTHFUL potential by sharing the same strategies and techniques that an actor uses to develop empowering personalities for the stage or screen.

The older I got the more invisible I became. People weren’t seeing me or hearing what I had to say. I could have walked into a bank and robbed it, and no one would have seen me. That’s when I decided to turn it all around and created STOP ACTING YOUR AGE. This shows you how I did it (and how you can too). As an Actor, you are castable ten to fifteen years younger than your age. Hi, I’m Thom. Thom McFadden. Actor, Author, Grandfather and Known as Hollywood’s “Coach to the Stars”.       STOP ACTING YOUR AGE or SAY-A, is HERE to help you reach your full YOUTHFUL potential by sharing the same strategies and techniques that an actor uses to develop empowering personalities for the stage or screen.

This shows you how I did it (and how you can too). As an Actor, you are castable ten to fifteen years younger than your age. Hi, I’m Thom. Thom McFadden. Actor, Author, Grandfather and Known as Hollywood’s “Coach to the Stars”.       STOP ACTING YOUR AGE or SAY-A, is HERE to help you reach your full YOUTHFUL potential by sharing the same strategies and techniques that an actor uses to develop empowering personalities for the stage or screen.

STOP ACTING YOUR AGE or SAY-A, is HERE to help you reach your full YOUTHFUL potential by sharing the same strategies and techniques that an actor uses to develop empowering personalities for the stage or screen.

So join me, to find out how you can be seen again, heard again. And How you can be the star in your play of life. I’m so excited to share all my strategies and techniques on how you can Stop Acting Your Age and discover The Fountain of Youth. Check out all the BLOGs here on my PAGE and stay tuned for new POSTs of the Stop Acting Your Age Topic.

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