You had plans. But the kids called last minute. They need you to watch the baby. You love your kids. You love your grandchild. Who can say no, right?
Well you could. Unless, of course you’re the quintessential people pleaser.
This is a sticky wicket for those of us past 60—in the 2nd and 3rd acts of life. Women are, by nature, people pleasers and caregivers. We spend a lifetime putting other’s needs above our own.
When the leader of the organization you volunteer with calls to ask you to serve on a committee, stop a minute and ask yourself. Will say yes simply because you fear what people will think about you?
Do you have a pushy friend who always make the plans for your events and you never have a say? But you don’t want to cross her? After all, she is your friend.
Let this be a new day. This is your life. When learning not to be a people pleaser, you’re not being selfish or unkind, you’re just being you. But beware—this may come as a shock to those around you.
It’s time to create your own boundaries—your parameters. Stop being a people pleaser. You only have one life to live. And never forget—it is your life, not theirs.