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Life Without Stress

Life Without Stress

Have you ever felt that stress was getting the best of you? And that you needed to do something about it? But you didn't know how. 

Well, watch this video and see how you can NUKE stress. 

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Heaven Hi, Be Boppers! Thom here! You know, we live in such a stressful society today. Everything from road rage to the economy. Here in California, we’re now having one of the worst droughts in history, and that’s causing stress for a lot of people. Our plants are dying, and my wife can’t wash her car. So it brings water to mind. Now I know what you’re thinking, 

'Half empty or half full?' Well, I’ve actually got another question for you.

"How heavy is a glass of water?” 6oz? 8oz? 20oz? The truth is, the absolute weight doesn't matter. It  depends on how long I hold it.

If I hold it for a minute, that's not a problem.

If I hold it for an hour, I'll have an Ache in my right arm.

If I hold it for a day, you'll have to call 911.

In each case it's the same weight,

But the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes. And that's the way it is with stress.

If we carry our burdens All the time, sooner or later,

as the Burden becomes heavy, we won't be able to carry on. As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and Rest before holding it again. Or drink it.

When we're refreshed, we can Carry on.

So, as early in the evening as you can,

Put all your burdens down. Don't carry them through the evening and into the night.

Pick that glass up again in the morning if you must.

Here in California, traffic is a nightmare that can ruin the entire day.  Adversity or opportunity? It depends on your perspective

It is not your circumstances that are to blame for the issues in your life. Rather, it is your response to those issues that is the problem. Your response is always a choice. Whether you know it or not, either you make the right choice, or the wrong one.

Many people like to blame their circumstances, especially when times are tough. Blaming might make you feel good in the short term but it ultimately leaves you powerless. I call it Playing the Victim role.

Now, the truth is that a reasonable amount of stress is actually good for you. Reasonable stress keeps you on your toes and mentally alert. This inappropriate stress response has detrimental effects on your health and well-being. Again, your response is always a choice.

Successful people do one thing differently during challenging times. They put the glass down and pick it up at the appropriate time.

So, this is what I do, and it’s worked for me. Here are Thom's tips on how to develop a more stress free life.

The night before, I go over what I have to do the next day, then I  visualize and see the end result I desire as I drift off to sleep. This way I allow my mind to work overnight so I have a headstart when I wake up.

Then, discipline yourself to start on your most important task and stay at that until it is complete. This will relieve much of your stress immediately. 

Practice positive thinking. This can add so much to your life. Don’t give in to negative thinking. Be responsible for your thoughts.

Avoid negative people. Negative people can ruin your best laid plans to think positively. They can feed the fire of self-doubt and anxiety. Spend quality time with quality people. Don’t spend quality time with casual people, or you will become the casualty. 

Time is you most precious commodity. It is never behind. How you positively and constructively budget your time will have a great impact on your success and your stress. A daily calendar is a must. There are good daily planners/organizers available everywhere.

Life can, at times, get a bit stressful and overwhelming. When it does its okay to take a break and put that glass of water down, but never quit. Go punch a pillow, scream, cry, pray, meditate or talk with a quality person who cares. After you rebound you can pick up that glass again. Almost all successful and happy people have experienced many stressful situations. Be persistent. Be courageous.  Be determined. Always maintain a sense of humor. 

Take time to live love and laugh. And don’t be afraid to drink from the fountain of youth - your mind!

 

This BLOG is a part of the SAYA series for baby boomers. Thom McFadden is your personal coach for beating AGEISM. Seniors can now Look, ACT, Feel years younger. Stop Acting Your Age, even if you are retired. Life is just beginning!

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SENIORS DEALING WITH SELF-HONESTY

SENIORS DEALING WITH SELF-HONESTY

Have you ever noticed when people say “To tell you the truth, “May I be honest with you” or maybe you are saying this yourself. What does that mean? That sometimes your honest and sometimes your not?

Nothing makes you more vulnerable than your refusal to be honest with yourself. 

Watch this video and find out if your dealing with SELF-HONESTY

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Through the peaks and valleys of my colorful life, I have learned an underlying truth that now guides me in my pursuits as an almost 80-year-old Senior. But to be honest with you, I did not always follow such a strong guidepost. I learned it the hard way while dealing with the trials and tribulations of life. There was not much help along the way, until I started being honest with myself. And that’s the truth.

It always starts with the self, because our suffering arises from the unknown, unfelt, resisted parts of our mind. This narrative explores the way us older folks, the silent generation and Generation Y, and even youngsters can intensify self-honesty and reattach to a wholeness of being, that empowers us to live with certainty, love, confidence, and wisdom.

Throughout history, deception has been an abstract survival strategy. However, like all survival strategies, when trickery turns into a habit and is not primarily about survival, it forestalls our continuing growth. For all of us, who are not honest with ourselves or abstain essential truths from others, we only evolve in an illusion. After many years of trying about everything to get through an individual’s defenses, the effective way I know to handle such an impasse, is to ask them: “When you honestly and vulnerably look into your heart, what truth or demons do you find there?”

The rationale for this approach is that no logic is going to get another (or 99% of people) to see the proverbial light when they have an emotional affinity with the facts that counterpunch their present framework of reality. It is called cognitive dissonance which is an inability to comprehend what nullifies current knowledge, often because it is just too shuddery to turn one’s world upside down with fresh insights.

The reality is that very few people have the guts to be their own skeptic. An aging Senior or a silent generation representative finding it challenging to come to terms with self-honesty may consider the cinematic example of Bill Murray in the Groundhog Day (1993). In the movie, the character Phil is fated to relive the same day over and over again until he gets it right.

Remember, self-honesty signifies recognizing your shadow, acknowledging it as a part of you and that it does not, by any means, weaken your inner light. Moreover, self-honesty is complemented by empathy for yourself, and by understanding, acceptance, and kindness towards yourself.



Furthermore, self-honesty compels you to take a long hard look at your evolution in time, examining what you have learned and how you have developed by comparing your present self with your past one.

I am a 79-year-old Senior and believe you me; I still have my doubt just like everyone else in the world. I still cling onto the feelings of wanting to be loved and wanting to be respected by everyone I meet. However, I now realize that it does not work that way and that when you shine the light of honesty on your character, the real you will emerge! And thats the honest truth.

Now Show your truth and pass it on!

And remember to drink from the SAY-A fountain of youth! Your mind

 

This audio is a part of the SAYA series for baby boomers. Thom McFadden is your personal coach for beating AGEISM. Seniors can now Look, ACT, Feel years younger. Stop Acting Your Age, even if you are retired. Life is just beginning!

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Loneliness Kills

Loneliness Kills 

 Have you ever felt LONELY? Of course we all have, Loneliness is one of the silent killers no one talks about.  What can you do about it? Well, in this first video of a powerful 2 part series on relationships, I’m going to share the 3 big lessons I’ve learned in my almost 80 years about relationships and Loneliness
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Hi, I’m Thom. Thom McFadden. Your guide to look, act and feel years younger so you can Stop Acting Your Age!

The fact is, good relationships keep us happier and healthier and loneliness kills.  Period.

The first important lesson about relationships is that social connections are really good for us, and that loneliness is toxic and slowly kills. It turns out that people who are social mixers, are happier, they're physically healthier, and they live longer. People who are more isolated from others find that they are less happy, their health declines earlier , their brain functioning declines sooner and they live shorter lives than people who are not lonely. And the sad fact is that at any given time, more than one in five Americans will report that they're lonely.

The second big lesson is that it's not just the number of friends you have, but it's the quality of your relationships that matter. It turns out that living in the midst of conflict is really bad for our health. And living in the midst of good, warm relationships is protective.. And good, close relationships seem to buffer us from some of the slings and arrows of getting old.

And the third big lesson about relationships and our health is that good relationships don't just protect our bodies, they protect our brains. 

So this message, that good, close relationships are good for our health and well-being, this is wisdom that's as old as  Methuselah who in the Bible lived to the ripe-old age of 969. Why is this so hard to get and so easy to ignore? Well, What we'd really like, is a quick fix, something we can google, or an app we can get, that'll make our lives good and keep them that way. 

The fact is, people who are the happiest in retirement, are the ones who have actively worked to replace workmates with new playmates. when I was young starting out in Hollywood I really believed that fame and fortune were what I needed to go after to have a good life. But over and over, i have seen that the people who fared the best were the people who leaned in to relationships, with family, friends and community.

So what about you? Let's say you're 30, or 40, or you're 60. What might leaning in to relationships even look like?

Well, the possibilities are practically endless. It might be something as simple as replacing T.V. time, with people time or livening up a stale relationship by doing something new together, long walks or date nights, or reaching out to that family member who you haven't spoken to in years, because those all-too-common family feuds take a terrible toll on the people who hold the grudges.

I'd like to close with a quote from Mark Twain. More than a century ago, he was looking back on his life, and he wrote this: "There isn't time, so brief is life, for bickerings, apologies, heartburnings, callings to account. There is only time for loving, and but an instant, so to speak, for that."

Here are the Facts: the good life is built -- with good relationships.

In part 2 of this 2 part video series, I will share with you The SAY-A Triad, which is the most effective way to stay young, mentally and emotionally. You’re going to love it! Until then, don’t be afraid to drink from the SAY-A fountain of youth… your MIND!

 

This BLOG is a part of the SAYA series for baby boomers. Thom McFadden is your personal coach for beating AGEISM. Seniors can now Look, ACT, Feel years younger. Stop Acting Your Age, even if you are retired. Life is just beginning!

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